A Letter to My Son: Seek Sophia


I recently took on Jeff Goins’ 500 Word Writing Challenge. My goal for this challenge was to write 500 words every day that relate to topics that I want to discuss on this blog. All that to say, one of the writing prompts was to write a letter to your child (or your younger self), and it is something that I want to share:

Dear Son,

Currently, you are just a few weeks older than 19 months. It’s incredible how quickly those 19 months have passed by. Every day, though, your mother and I have come to love you more and more. I pray that you never feel unloved or uncared for.

I also pray that you would seek a life that glorifies the God who created all things, including our little family. I pray that your life would be marked by loving God, loving others, and caring for the earth.

Below I offer some of the things that I have learned about wisdom throughout my 27 years of life. Although 27 years is not that long, I believe it is my duty as your father to share with you the things that I have learned, so that you may grow in wisdom too.

Wisdom, you see, comes as you grow; but growing does not guarantee wisdom. Gaining wisdom comes from intentionality. It is not something that simply falls into one’s lap unexpectedly or is available for purchase.

What is wisdom? What makes a man or woman wise?

To be wise is to be experienced, to be knowledgeable, and to be discerning.

Human beings have the opportunity to learn from different scenarios and situations every single day. We must, then, open our eyes to that reality: wisdom is all around us. Reflection is an important part of this process, whereby one is able to learn from their experiences.

I believe, in fact, that God created human beings to seek wisdom. Becoming wiser is to flourish. Becoming wiser is to become more human. Becoming wiser leads to loving God, loving others, and caring for the earth.

The opposite of wisdom is folly. To be unwise is to be unexperienced, foolish, thoughtless, reckless, stupid, irresponsible.

Folly is an easy prey; it is much easier to be foolish than to be wise. But like all good things in life, wisdom takes hard work and much intentionality. Our culture loves Immediate gratification. Don’t get caught up in that.

To seek folly over wisdom, you see, is to not flourish, to become less human, and to love that which is not God, others, or the earth.

Do not refrain from learning from people that are completely different than you. All human beings, created by the same God, have something to offer. If we are only listening to those who think just like us, we will never grow.

Lastly, remember that the world is not as black and white as some would make it seem; there are many grey areas. Consider both sides of the coin. “Why?” is the best question one can ask. Always seek to understand before making conclusions.

In the words of The Lumineers, “It’s a long road to wisdom. It’s a short one to being ignored.”

Love you, my son.